Sexual Offences Bill Would Only Paralyse Kenya

It is high time that we get to find answers to the many questions that are asked about rape this time round by Kenyans especially those who understand issues and not just by the politicians and the legal fraternity.

Our main challenge would lie on understanding what happens on a rapist’s mind than to find blame that would not help solve the problem but exacerbate this bestial act. My question is.

Is 'abnormal' sexual gratification more physical than psychological?

And is there any physical gratification during rape?

Or is the gratification more mental than sexual?

Can we quantify sex and its gratification?

Can we also measure the psychological gratification in percentage form, as in 40% or 99%?

Do we have a methodology of determining gratification in a scientific than cultural or even more political manner?

This is the only way of making our society be one unless women want men to be more violent,even going to an extent of Killing.It is pshychologically proven that if a man is unable to meet this kind of gratification, the chances of him being more violent become higher.Women should help suppress such that to inflate and set the fire up...

As a matter of fact, the Sexual Offences Bill is one of the most sensitive and intriguing bills among many in our laws. Legal experts need to be aware of the sensitive sentences being passed. Legal issues need to be embraced with psychological matters to bring a just conformity to our society as a whole. We are certain that each and every person in the country would wish to have the law put in practice for the betterment of our Kenyan society.

Unfortunately, Kenyan women erreed when they adopted the 'Beijing' way if handling this sensitive issue.Many Kenyan women have since stopped living as women by behaving and reasoning like men. In Rwanda, Burundi, Uganda and Tnazania, many women live as real ladies. May be that is why they have many women parliamentarians than the Kenyan folks.

A question for the Kenyan woman: Can't you as women learn to have dialogue when touching on sensitive issues?

At the same time,if women are unable to have relationships with men (in marriage/they live single lives) why should we trust them when it comes to leadership and politics!

When you say that Rapists should be castrated, did you ever consult the men about that?

Who says that everything is worth fighting for? From politics, marriage, divorce, relationships, employment, parliamentary seats, among many others.

Can't you dialogue as you try to find ways of having female represenattion? Women of Kenya ought to know that they alone cannot achieve all these without including men while making such deliberations.

Why are we ignorant about undrestanding the minds of our men?

Let us understand the following. We need to fully understand even why 'men seem to be diffucult creatures' in our ever religious society. It is time that we emphasized deeper into the issue so as to fully exhaust this societal mess. We all cry for our women, children and men for an act such as rape is demeaning and very traumatizing for those who undergo this ugly experience. What we need most is to understand all the causative factors of the same. Psychotherapists and psychologists have a duty to give us answers to this dilemma of which is a societal progressed ill. More so criticisms over rapists have been frequent and intense though much too subjective and unscientific. The claims are in a way mentalistic and cannot be objective and validated when emotion alone is expressed. We have reified rather than verified rape in totality. We ought to separate and redefine through proper classification sexual violence and rape which are two different items. There is need to emphasize more on understanding rape as a personality problem first before we criminalize it. The impulsive instincts prior to rape are always expressed in fantacies, memories, desires and feelings that later mature and metamorphosize into impulsive bestial actions in most cases with violence.

With time offenders get fatigued and wished that they had acted on an obsession they had yearned for after prolonged repression. A picture or image of a nude and provocative lady on a magazine (pornography) could secondarily be translocated to an innocent ‘person’s mind in the village and which could lead to some form of rape.

Certainly, such weak graduating impulses and poor defenses of the past are shifted to the present for one does not wake up one day and choose to be a rapist. We need to separate the grain from the chaff and what should count most is the method that we would use to ‘sieve’ the weed of rape that needs to be uprooted at the same time being cautious not to destroy the whole ‘bag of grain of men’ through castration only to regret later. Thus sincere interpretation on rape means to make the unconscious perceptions be understood on a conscious phenomenon. This entails making conscious the unconscious course of mental event that leads to this type of interpretation. It implies going beyond what is readily observable as being legal where meaning and causality of a rape phenomenon are psychologically assigned.

During rape, the offender most likely engages in object relationship in which the other is seen as perhaps finally being the one who will satisfy ungratified pregenital instincts. Instincts that arise due to lack of genuine self esteem that leads to poor defenses and actions. With this presentation, communication between the offender and the victim would be in interlocking monologue together with threats, crude language and physical violence. This weak urge and defense mechanism or inner control is expressed in form of uncontrolled outbursts of mental aggression. According to research it is presumed that a rape act is more of psychological than physical gratification. A rapist feels more ‘powerful’ after being deprived off inner 'power'.

Normally, feelings and fantasies are always present and are kept in control by unconscious strong defenses. For a rape offender the defenses are immature and weak which later turn out to be expressions of sexual urges that are doubly resistant to change due to mental involvement and fixation. Rape offenders create and delegate rules for the victims though the same victims are a threat to the rape offender because they remind rapists of how empty they are and how inauthentic their lives are, unfortunately for the same rapists to compensate more their 'lost' powerful urges towards their victims through that bestial act. Rapists are like robots and feel safe to relate only to objectify others without dual intimacy, whether the victim is young or old. They only go for innate gratification and not mutual copulation and intimacy.

On the contrary there is a misconception that their targets are those scantly dressed or having 'beautiful legs'. Their most preferred urge is internal and imagery even though the presentation is physical rape. As a fact mental involvement at this time is greater during the act. This comes handy with suitable environment for them to fulfill that poor mental gratification and 'false power' that was previously not there but was ‘acquired’ after the encounter. As a matter of principle, we need more answers to such than mere criminalizing rapists and their weak actions. It is not a problem that comes from men but a societal issue.

Men too fall victim to male rapists. We all feel for our dear women, children and men in society. Unfortunately men are discriminated against and stigmatized when taken to ‘Nairobi Women’s Hospital’ for treatment and counseling. Many men choose not to seek this assistance due to stigmatization. Otherwise, many do support the bill and we should all fight together for the social and sexual rights of all in society including our dear women and men and children.

Best Regards,
Mundia Mundia Jnr.